I’m reading an article about the latest evolution of online dating called christianmingle.com that claims to find “God’s match for you.” I snort at the site’s indirect claim that God only works through this website. I feel he’d put your soul mate in your path out in the every day world. I’m really curious about the 1,000 people that popped up in the author’s “soul mate” search.
How many soul mates does one get in a lifetime? Having that many potential soul mates makes the whole notion less romantic. Granted, with millions of people in the world, I suppose it still makes you feel like a lottery winner when you beat the odds and serendipitously run into your true soul mate to spend the rest of your married life with. The article also points out that the notion of soul mates means people wait longer to get married, and many divorce the moment the relationship gets difficult because they don’t want to waste a moment looking for their true best natural fit.
During coffee with my high school girlfriends, one happily married friend suggested that perhaps our friends are our soul mates, not our spouses. Webster, IX defines soul mate as “a person temperamentally suited to another.” Who else makes suggestions resulting in you smacking your forehead because they know you better than you know yourself? Who talks you into running a marathon for your 40th birthday then loves you even though you only do the ½ marathon? Who consoles you when your significant other is breaking your heart?
I believe a soul mate challenges you to be the best you. I also agree that everyone who comes through our life has a purpose – best friend, taxing personality or even ex-husband. Finally, I think we all have to know who we are and not wait for the one that “completes us” – Sorry Jerry. If you haven’t gotten lost in my “creative” logic, I agree with my friend and buying into the 1,000 soul mates. So far I only have 467 on Facebook, plus add a few more that prefer face-to-face status updates, so I can’t wait to see whom I encounter next. Share your opinion!