I feel like an enigma as the introvert that loves joining groups. Growing up, groups served my desire to disappear in the pile of, and yet identify with, my peers. I wore the labels from showing up for just enough meetings to get in the yearbook picture and partake in the free snacks. I knew the truth I aimed to occupy, I just balked at my own value not believing I offered anything new. I feel like teenage angst boiled over then reduced down to a thick syrup of Imposter syndrome.
Thank goodness that my heart knew what it needed and where I wanted to wind up, although my feet kept kicking myself in the ass. My heart backed myself into some amazing groups that I still can’t believe include me in their membership. These groups not only broadcast my soul to the world but, in turn, give me clarification and confidence about who I am. Each group feels a little bit like home.
High School Girlfriends – Friends who have known the many evolutions of me (since before I knew who I was) and still stay close anyway!
OMagInsiders – Group of hearts on a similar wavelength who expanded my horizons and helped redefine the second season of my life.
Eat My Way Around The World – Flavorful foodie friends introduced to me by work who remind me to season our work life with social meals. They know what I’m saying even if words evade me.
Redondo Rocks – Kind, creative and generous people aiming to embellish people’s days and strengthen the positive connections in our community.
Mom Tribe – I have a flourishing and eager-to-help network of moms who have driven carpools, fed my kids, kept them if I have to be somewhere at an off hour, taken them on fun adventures, and helped me keep my eyes on the ground – so much so that my children believe that I really do see everything everywhere. While I love them all for helping make me a successful mom, I love them as people and look forward to the times when the kids are scarce too.
Korean Adoptees – We’re so spread out around the globe, but we’re reuniting online through a wide variety of groups where we help carry the history we share together and mentor each other to find the answers we hope for or the path we are meant for.
I’m so fortunate because these groups offer:
- A security blanket – Non-judgemental support when needed
- Level-headed perspective – They speak truthfully and directly to help steer me
- Calming agent – They listen and give great hugs which dissipate the feeling of being alone in any storm
- Strong support – They totally jump on my crazy train when I’m roaring down the tracks
- Sweeten my life – They surprise me with special treats of kind gestures and rituals
- Bonus: Did you know that by participating in regular moais, your life could increase by 8 years (Blue Zones)?
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
Do you belong to any moais, groups or clubs?
What is your longest-lasting Moai?
Do you prefer online or in-person groups?
How many people are in your Moai?
Do you know how to say Moai? Mo•ai (/mo,eye/) Japan
Tell me the top three things your Moai give you!